Let me start by saying, these differences won’t apply to all men and all women all the time. Rather, they will apply to most men and most women most of the time. And, as we get older some of the differences can shift.
So is sex really more important for men than women? Or is it just more complicated for women?
When a Woman gets Physical, She Gets Attached
That’s why she can’t jump in as quickly or easily. Because once she gets physically intimate with someone, she can become attached, whether she wants to or not.
When You’re Falling in Love, Your Brain Stops Working Right
In the beginning stages of a relationship, the cautious part of your brain gets really quiet. So it’s easy to miss the red flags or other warning signs. But once the infatuation wears off you can see clearer. Except, if you’ve slept with him, then you may already be bonded. That’s why it can be hard to leave even if he’s not a great guy or the relationship isn’t what you really want. You’re already “in.”
It Takes More for a Woman to Get and Stay “in the Mood”
It’s nature’s way of slowing her down, because she has so much more on the line. So a woman will need closeness, talking, cuddling and kissing before sex. And if there isn’t trust or commitment that will definitely affect her ability to “let go.” And she can easily be distracted by noises or just having too much on her mind.
It Takes Less for a Man to Get or Stay “in the Mood”
Plus, sex is often when he feels closest to his partner. In fact sex is as important to a man as talking is to a woman. It’s how he connects and feels close.
When Sex is Good for Her, Everybody’s Happy!
So sex does matter to her, she just needs her partner to be sensitive to what she really needs. Because when sex is better for her, she’ll be more interested, which is good for every body! And remember, with sex it’s -“Use it or Lose it”. So it’s worth taking the time to get it right!
We’ll be discussing Sex at our January relationship seminar at the Village Book Shop. Can’t wait to hear what you think!
Sex: Why She Needs to Take it Slow, Why it’s So Important to Him
Saturday, January 8th, 2011
3:00 – 4:30 p.m.
Village Book Shop
123 N. Glendora Ave., Glendora