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Are You a Sexpert? What’s Your Sex IQ?

Are you a sex-pert?
We all know men and women are different when it comes to sex. But, just how different are we? Take this SEXPERT quiz* to get your SEX IQ and find out!


(Fill in the blanks with MEN or WOMEN)

  1. When  _______ have sex, they tend to bond with their partner.
  2. _______ are more visual and aroused more easily.
  3. _______ are aroused more slowly and need non-sexual touch before direct sexual touch.
  4. Worry, fatigue and stress can interfere with a  _______’s desire for sex.
  5. _______ need to feel relaxed, warm, and comfortable before sex.
  6. _______ usually need to feel connected and close before sex. And they may want to talk.
  7. For _______, foreplay is anything that’s happened in the last 24 hours.
  8. For _______, foreplay is anything that’s happened in the last 3-minutes.
  9. _______ have 2 1/2 times more brain space devoted to sex and 3 times more sex drive.
  10. _______’s sex hormones are highest in the morning.
  11. _______’s sex hormones are highest at certain times of the month.
  12. _______ are more like a blow torch – all the way on/all the way off.
  13. _______ are more like an oven – slow to preheat/slow to cool down.
  14. _______ feel like loss of sex = loss of love.
  15. _______’s pleasure is the best predictor of the couple having a good sex life.


  1. Women release the bonding hormone, oxytocin, with any physical touch. And especially with sex and orgasm (Brizendine, 2006).
  2. Men are more visual than women. That’s why they’re aroused more easily.
  3. Women are aroused more slowly and need non-sexual touch before any sexual body parts are touched (Grey, 1997).
  4. Worry, fatigue and stress can interfere with a woman’s desire for sex (Brizendine, 2006).
  5. Women need to feel comfortable and warm before they’re ready to have sex (Brizendine, 2006).
  6. Women need to feel close and connected before sex. And they may want to bond by talking before, during, and after sex.
  7. For women, foreplay is anything that’s happened in the last 24 hours, so men shouldn’t pick a fight the day before they want to have sex! (Brizendine, 2006)
  8. For men, foreplay is what happens right before sex (Brizendine, 2006).
  9. Men have 2 1/2 times more brain space and 3 times more sex drive than women (Brizendine, 2006).
  10. Men’s testosterone levels are highest in the morning.
  11. Women’s desire for sex is highest when they are ovulating (day 14 of their cycle). That’s also when women are most fertile.
  12. Men are like blow torches. When they are turned on, they are all the way ready for sex. And once it’s over, they’re all the way off (Grey,1997).
  13. Women are like ovens. It takes more for a woman to be ready for sex. She needs lots of preheating first (Grey 1997).
  14. Sex is as important to men as talking is to women. A loss of sex feels like a loss of love for men (Brizendine, 2006).
  15. A woman’s pleasure is the best predictor of a good sex life. Because when sex is good for her, there will be more sex!


If you got 11-15 correct answers, your SEX IQ is high. You know most of the differences between men and women. You are a SEXPERT!

If you got 6-10 correct answers, your SEX IQ is medium. You understand some of the differences between men and women, and you may have picked up a few nuggets here. This makes you a SEXPERT-IN-PROGRESS!

If you got 0-5 correct answers, good for you for taking the quiz. You may have scored a low SEX IQ. But you are on your way to knowing more about men and women’s differences, which makes you a SEXPERT-IN-TRAINING!

Now, it’s Your Turn

You KNOW, I’d love to hear your thoughts, questions and comments!


Brizendine, L. (2006). The Female Brain. New York: Doubleday.

Grey, John. (1997).  Men are from Mars, women are from Venus.  (Workshop Videotapes and Workbook).

* This quiz is intended to be fun and informative. However, it is not a valid psychological assessment tool.

Vonda (“Vondie”) Lozano, Ph.D., is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Certified Hypnotherapist. She’s been featured in Cosmopolitan, the Wall Street Journal and on KABC Talk Radio. Vondie offers hypnosis, counseling, and workshops in Ventura. Nearby cities include Camarillo, Ojai and Oxnard.

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