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Online Dating — Shopping for Men!

Online Dating

What’s not to love about online dating? It’s basically shopping for men!

*You can shop from the privacy of your own home

*There’s lots of men to choose from

*You can check boxes to order up men who meet your criteria

*You can get to know men online before you meet them in person 

It sounds so easy. So, why do some women find love online and some don’t?

#1 Mistake in Online Dating

Have you ever gone shopping for lipstick and when you get home it turns out you bought the same color you already have? That’s what happens with online dating. You can end up choosing the same type of guy over and over without meaning to. You might even make a conscious effort to choose someone different. But, somehow you find yourself back in the same type of relationship that hasn’t worked in the past.

That’s because chemistry works even on the internet. And chemistry just means he’s a perfect match for all the hardwiring in your brain from your childhood and family relationships. The only problem is — if you don’t want a repeat of the past, he may not be a perfect match for you.

#1 Online Dating Tip 

Have you ever been shopping for clothes and the salesgirl brings you something you would never have picked out for yourself? But, you try it on and it turns out to be perfect! That’s what can happen with a great guy who isn’t necessarily your type at first. He can turn out to be exactly what you’re looking for.

This doesn’t mean you have to go for guys you find unappealing. It just means being willing to take a chance on a new kind of guy – a good guy. And by good, I don’t mean boring. A good guy might be cute, smart, friendly. You might have a lot in common. He might be someone you’d have as a friend. There might not be a lot of chemistry at first. But, chemistry can develop. And when it does, you’ll have the whole package — friendship, romance, and love.

What more can you ask for?

Vonda (“Vondie”) Lozano, Ph.D., is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Certified Hypnotherapist. She’s been featured in Cosmopolitan, the Wall Street Journal and on KABC Talk Radio. Vondie offers hypnosis, counseling, and workshops in Ventura. Nearby cities include Camarillo, Ojai and Oxnard.

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