I know your priority is trying to find someone you could have a real relationship with.
And you know I always say — It’s an inside job and an outside job.
The outside work is all the dating stuff — see 3 people, don’t get physical, find your village (people with your values) … A lot of this is from Andy Whaling’s singles group that I attended after my divorce.
The inside work is harder, but really more important. It includes discovering:
* What went wrong in your last relationship
* Why you’re attracted to a certain “type”
* How to recognize red flags so you can RUN AWAY!
People always ask me — “how will I ever trust again?” I let them know it’s less about trusting someone else (though that’s part of it). And it’s more about learning to trust YOURSELF.
Because when you can see where you ignored your gut in the past and how that didn’t work out, you’ll be more likely to trust yourself in the future.
So instead of doubting yourself the next time someone does something that doesn’t feel right — like putting you down or making you feel bad in some way… you begin to realize that it’s them and not you.
And once you can start screening out the players, you’ll be more ready to find the good ones.
So that’s our topic for our Valentine’s Relationship Seminar next month. How to Trust (Yourself) Again!