Facebook can figure out who you’re in a romantic relationship with. And they can predict if you might break-up.
A recent study by Facebook and Cornell University researchers found that they could predict who someone’s partner was based on how little their mutual friends were connected.
And when their predictions weren’t as good, it might be because those relationship weren’t gonna last.
You and Your Boyfriend are the Glue in Your Mutual Friendships
The researchers could tell who someone’s partner was because their shared friends didn’t have connections to each other. Instead, the couple was the glue that connected them.
For example, let’s say you introduce your boyfriend to your best friend. And your boyfriend introduces you to his brother. So your best friend and your boyfriend’s brother are now mutual friends of both of yours. But, they probably aren’t friends with each other. Because, the only thing your best friend and your boyfriend’s brother really have in common is the two of you.
That’s how they could tell who was in a relationship with who. When people’s mutual friends aren’t connected to each other, there’s a good chance it’s because the couple is what they have in common.
The researchers had the best results with married people. They were able to figure out who someone’s spouse was 60% of the time. Their predictions weren’t as good for people who were just “in a relationship.” But, that’s also because some of those relationships were headed for trouble.
When You’re Not the Glue, Your Chances of Breaking Up are Higher
The researchers found that people who were “in a relationship,” but who didn’t have those types of mutual friends (ie. you’re not introducing him to your best friend and he’s not introducing you to his brother) … those relationships had a higher chance of breaking up after 60 days.
In other words, if you’re “in a relationship,” but you’re not sharing your friends and family with each other, it could be a sign that your relationship is already on the rocks or it may be headed there.
It is kind of Big Brother-ish to realize Facebook can figure out who you’re seeing without you telling them. But, it’s even more freaky to realize they can read between the lines of what’s happening inside your relationship.
It’s important to remember that Facebook has a vested interest in encouraging you and your boyfriend to spend more time online meeting each others’ Facebook friends.
But, it’s also true that merging your worlds is an important part of building a lasting relationship.
I’d love to hear your thoughts…
- When do you think you should starting introducing a guy to your friends and family?
- When would you be comfortable meeting his friends and family?
- Once you meet in person, would you want to become Facebook friends with his friends and family?
- Would you want him to friend your friends and family?
- What do you think about Facebook being able to figure out who you’re seeing and if you might break-up?
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