The holidays can be challenging. It’s a busy time, but you can end up feeling lonely amidst the crowds. Plus, there’s the tendency to imagine that everyone else is having a “hallmark holiday” that’s much better than yours. This can leave you feeling bad about who you are and where you are in your life today.
That’s when it can help to give yourself the gifts of acceptance, gratitude and hope.
Acceptance and Gratitude
Acceptance doesn’t mean you like everything about your life right now. It just means you acknowledge where you are today. And you focus your attention on anything in your life that you can be grateful for.
It’s easy to focus on what’s wrong in your life instead of what’s right. But, when you do that you’ll always fall short. Plus it dishonors how hard you’ve fought to get to where you are today.
It works better to remember — you’re exactly where you’re supposed to be at this moment. And to bless yourself for all you’ve gone through to bring you to today and to thank the universe for who you are and where you are right now.
It’s risky to hope. Especially if you grew up in the kind of family that said, “Don’t get your hopes up and you won’t be disappointed.” But, hope is what brings us the good.
I made a list of goals last December and I pulled it out this week. I was amazed that 90% of what was on my list had happened! I had a whole section about wanting to move to Ventura and what we were looking for in a house. We didn’t get everything we wanted — our house needs A LOT of updating. But, we got the majority of what we were hoping for. And we also got some unexpected blessings — like we were able to find a house in our favorite neighborhood.
That doesn’t mean my life is perfect. We’ve definitely had our share of challenges with moving up to Ventura. And we’re still finding our way. But, we took the biggest step and I’m hopeful that the rest will continue to unfold as it’s meant to.
So, I would encouage you to give yourself the gift of hope. Consider what you’d like to bring into your life in 2016 — in terms of love, work, prosperity? Create a list. Be specific. Put your list where you can see it or write down some steps to reach those goals and put the list away away till next year.
That’s hope — it’s believing that you deserve to have the life and love you want. Because you do.
If you’d like to share your hopes for 2016, I’d love to hear them. Just leave a comment below.
And if you’re in the Ventura area, I’d love to have you join me for my annual, How to Let Go of the Past So You Can Get Started on Your Future meetup, January 16. Just click here for more information.