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Sex: Why it’s So Important to Him and Why it Seems Less Important to Her, July 11, 2009

Sex is a mysterious and wonderful part of relationships.  It’s the glue that bonds us, like nothing else.  But, why is it so important to men?  And why does it seem less important to women?

The truth is — sex is very important to women.  When women become physically involved, they become emotionally attached.  That’s why it’s important for women to not jump in too quickly.  Because once she’s physically intimate with someone, she becomes attached, whether she wants to or not.

That’s also why, it takes more for women to get “in the mood.”  It’s nature’s way of slowing her down.  But, it can make things more complex for couples with busy, stressful lives.  For her to want sex, she needs to feel close and connected.  She can’t be tired or upset.  And she needs lots of cuddling and kissing first. 

It’s also harder for her to stay “in the mood.”  She can easily be distracted by noises, or worries, or if she just has a lot on her mind.  With so much that can go wrong, the key for her is quality not quantityShe doesn’t need more sex, she needs good sex. 

And men are different.  For him, more is usually better.  It’s not that he wants bad sex.  It’s just that it doesn’t take as much for him to get or stay “in the mood.”  So, sex is usually good for him.  Plus, sex is often when he feels closest to her.  So for him, what’s not to like about sex?
We really are very different , when it comes to sex.  But the good news is — if a couple can embrace their differences, sex will be better for her.  When sex is better for her, she becomes more interested in sex.  Then, chances are — there will be more sex, which is better for him.  So everyone is happy!

So, I hope you’ll join us for:

Sex, Why it’s So Important to Him/Why it Seems Less Important to Her
Saturday, July 11, 2009
3:00 p.m.
Village Book Shop
123 N. Glendora Ave., Glendora

Vonda (“Vondie”) Lozano, Ph.D., is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Certified Hypnotherapist. She’s been featured in Cosmopolitan, the Wall Street Journal and on KABC Talk Radio. Vondie offers hypnosis, counseling, and workshops in Ventura. Nearby cities include Camarillo, Ojai and Oxnard.

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