We all know it’s not good to share too much too soon on a first date.
TMI (Too Much Information) can scare off anyone. But when does it become a problem to KEEP something from your partner?
Last weekend my boyfriend started rattling off a bunch of silly stuff that he thought I should know about him in the interests of “full-disclosure.”It was funny at the time. But later on, I realized, there was something I needed to share with him.
Now, don’t get me wrong, it wasn’t anything serious, at least not to me. But, what’s no-big-deal to you can sometimes be a big deal for him. And, I did know he wasn’t going to like it (which was probably why I hadn’t shared it in the first place).
Anyway, I needed to let him know that I bathe my little (and very cute) dog in the kitchen sink. (Right now, some of you are saying, “ugh… gross!” and some of you are saying, “so what?” See what I mean … no big deal to some, a very big deal to others.) Now, in my defense, I did THINK about telling him last summer … after he made me separate the dog dishes from the people dishes… which involved buying new sponges for each … and requires washing the dog dishes by hand (since they are no longer allowed in the dishwasher.)
Anyway, I thought if he doesn’t want the dog dishes near the people dishes, then he probably wouldn’t want the whole dog in the kitchen sink. (Now, if you are not a dog-person, I’m sure this is obvious to you. But I have surveyed my dog-friends and believe me. I’m not the worst!)
But, since I couldn’t think of another way to wash my dog (my bathroom shower and sink wouldn’t work, for reasons I won’t go into). AND I had to bathe the dog a lot, since my boyfriend is also allergic to fleas. ANYWAY, since I couldn’t come up with a solution, I guess I just decided to “forget” to mention it to him.
Well, needless to see, he wasn’t happy when I finally told him. But, what also upset him was that I’d been “keeping it” from him. Now to his credit, he got over it pretty quickly, and THANK GOD he loves my dog. So, we’re coming up with other solutions that we can both live with. But, it was still pretty hard to tell him.